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L.O.V.E. - Lessons On Voicing Emotions

I learned when I was younger that I was passive-aggressive until I was not. I used to bite my tongue on things I should have been expressing my emotions on, and those tendencies affected my relationships. Either I ended up confused about where things stood, unhappy, or both because I didn't use my voice or practice active listening to those around me. Or I would hold those emotions inside and one day overreact or negatively share the truth of how I felt.

Putting your trust in others and feeling comfort in any relationship is complicated. However, expressing emotions with the people in our lives is integral to human nature. It strengthens our partnerships by helping us to understand people better. It gives us clarity on how we and others want to be treated.

And yes, it is difficult to share negative emotions because it may be picking a scab on someone who may already be wounded or overly sensitive. However, being authentic in a relationship is about being honest and transparent to understand where the relationship stands. You cannot create change and build a healthy partnership on lies and sugarcoating the truth. However, we must be empathetic and show compassionate accountability when expressing negative emotions and feelings. Remember that you are trying to create awareness so that you or the person you're expressing your feelings with can build desire and take action toward change if they want to maintain the relationship. It also may require compromise to meet someone where they are and help them become who they want to be.

Though it is easier to share positive emotions, sharing negative feelings can lead to working through important issues and healing. Additionally, it can ensure that you do not remain in one-sided or inappropriate relationships for longer than necessary. Either way, you will clear the clutter and open yourself up to better communication for your relationship or the ones you will move into. So, take the tips to better openness and clarity by.............

  1. Creating a communication process that encourages both sides to be heard without interruptions.

  2. Showing mutual empathy for how each person feels and interprets the events or the issue.

  3. Not generalizing how you feel. Be specific with events or actions that have prompted your negative emotions.

  4. Be clear and concise about what you need or want from the partnership or relationship moving forward

Today, I encourage you to take steps to understand your relationships better. Find common ground, even if it means going your separate ways so that you can close the chapter and leave your true feelings on the table. Share your positive emotions so that people know that you appreciate and recognize their value, and share your negative emotions so the people know what you want or need in the relationship. Don't be afraid to share and give people the most authentic version of yourself.


Your Positive Advancement Family.

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